How To Get Kids To Listen Without Becoming Frustrated

By Carolyn Long


When children are developing, both emotionally and on a physical level, parents often find that there is a lot to learn about their kids. One of the things that they struggle with is how to get kids to listen to what they are saying. However, one must remember that there are certain techniques to use. Parents will, therefore become less frustrated.

It is easy for a child to become distracted because of the fact that there is so much going on around them. Parents may become annoyed, but one has to realize that this is what happens with the average child. When a child is focusing on an activity, they often become immersed in what they are doing that they don't become distracted by the outside world.

Of course, there are times when a child is playing mind games. This is when they are going to ignore you. Every child goes through this phase, looking for attention or testing the parent. This is more psychological and it is not going to help when you raise your voice because they won't respond.

Children will start to learn about various orders and commands over time. However, they don't want to become fearful of the parent, thinking that they will become threatened in one way or another. Parents should exercise caution, using empathy and compassion when talking to their child. They will strengthen the bond between the parent and the child.

It is also important not to exercise that sense of control or power over your child. A lot of parents have authority and children grow up becoming fearful of authority figures. Parents will just tell their kids to do as they say. You should be ready for a response. When a child questions an order or command, you need to come back with a reasonable answer.

You have to put yourself in your child's shoes. It is not always easy for them to simply stop doing something. They may be bored or they may be feeling impatient. Some parents will merely tell their kids off in a case like this. However, you need to come across in a compassionate nature. Use terms of endearment so they are able to understand.

One can become impatient at times when children don't listen to what you are saying. You must realize that this is part of the development process and you need to stay calm. Take a deep breath and remember that if you start to become upset and raise your voice, the situation is only going to become worse.

Some children who have attention deficit disorder will also battle to listen. This can also cause impatience on the part of the parent. Kids will be so busy talking, that they don't have the chance to listen to their parent. They are filled with energy that they need to burn off. It is best that a parent learns how to cope with this.




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